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Allah Honours the Ones who Honour Their Parents

February 8, 2011

Uways al-Qarni was from the tabi’een (i.e. the generation that followed the sahabah). He was kept from meeting the Prophet as he spent his time looking after his mother and so because of this he can not be considered to be from the sahabah. However Allah honoured him, so much so that every time a group of people from Yemen came to Umar ibn al-Khattab, he would ask if  Uways was amongst them.

The Story of Uways al-Qarni

Asir ibn Jabir narrated: Whenever people would come from Yemen, Umar would ask them, “Is Uways Al-Qarni amongst you?” Until, one year, he met Uways.

He said, “Are you Uways al-Qarni?” He said, “Yes.”

Umar continued, “From the branch of Murad and the tribe of Qaran?” He said, “Yes.”

Umar then asked, “Were you once afflicted with leprosy and your skin healed except for a area of a dirham?” Uways said, “Yes.”

Umar finally asked, “Do you have a mother (that is alive)?” He said, “Yes.”

Umar then said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah – sallallahu alayhi wa sallam – say, Uways ibn Aamir will come to you with the delegations from Yemen, from the branch of Murad, and the tribe of Qaran. He was once afflicted with leprosy and his skin healed except for a dirham’s area. He has a mother, and he treats her kindly. If he was to ever swear by Allah (for something) Allah would fulfil his oath. If you can, request that he ask forgiveness for you.”

Umar then requested from Uways, “Ask forgiveness for me.” And Uways al-Qarni did.

Action Points

  • Always honour parents, even though they may keep you from other tasks that you think to be more worthy.
  • Remember that Allah is pleased with you as long as your parents are pleased with you and Allah is displeased with you as long as your parents are displeased with you.
  • Make dua for your parents and ask Allah to give you the tawfiq to treat them with ihsan.
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Wa bil walidayni ihsana

November 5, 2010

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ

كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ

الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا رَّبُّكُمْ أَعْلَمُ بِمَا فِي نُفُوسِكُمْ

إِن تَكُونُوا صَالِحِينَ فَإِنَّهُ كَانَ لِلْأَوَّابِينَ غَفُورًا

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.”Your Lord knows best what is in your inner-selves. If you are righteous, then, verily, He is Ever Most Forgiving to those who turn unto Him again and again in obedience, and in repentance. [Surat al-Isra, 17:23-25]

Dutifulness to One’s Parents

August 17, 2010

Abdullah bin Abu Aufa narrated: We were with the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلّم) and someone came to him and said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger! There is a young man who is dying and it was said to him say La ilaha illallah, but he is unable to recite it.’

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلّم) asked, ‘Did he used to pray?’ The man said, ‘Yes.’

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلّم) went to the young man and ordered him, ‘Say: La ilaha illallah!’ He replied, ‘I cannot.’ The Prophet asked him why and he said, ‘My heart is sealed; every time I want to recite it, my heart prevents me from doing so.’ The Prophet asked him, ‘Why?’ The young man said, ‘Because of my ‘Uquq (undutiful treatment) towards my mother.’

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلّم) sent for her and asked, ‘What if I command that a great fire is started and you were asked to invoke Allah to forgive your son, or else he will be thrown in it?’ She said, ‘In that case, I will invoke Allah for him, O Allah’s Messenger!’ The Prophet said, ‘Then bear witness to Allah and then to me that you have forgiven him.’ She said, ‘I bear witness to You (O Allah) and then to Your Messenger that I have forgiven my son,’

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلّم) said to the young man, ‘Say: La ilaha illallah!’ That man said, ‘La ilaha illallahu wahdahu la sharika lahu’.

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلّم) said thrice, ‘All praise is due to Allah for saving you from the Fire.’”

Taken from Gems and Jewels.

Compiled by Abdul-Malik Mujahid

Make Dua For Your Parents

August 5, 2010

It’s important that we honour our parents. That doesn’t mean that once every year we make them breakfast in bed, and buy them some flowers. That means that we should make them feel special and loved every single day!

One of the things that we should do regularly is make dua for them. One of the most beautiful duas in the Qur’an is where Allah commands us to say:

رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا

Rabbir-ham humaa kamaa rabbayaanee sagheeraa

“O Lord! Have mercy on them (my parents) as they did bring me up when I was small.”

[Surah Bani Isra’eel 17:24]

Because the simple fact of the matter is that nothing we ever do can ever repay what our parents have done for us! Therefore the very least we can do for them is make this dua for them.

Action Points

  • Download the attached document – Print it out and stick it somewhere you will see it everyday.
  • Learn and memorise the dua.
  • Make dua for your parents as much as you can.

Download: Dua for Parents

The Mother’s Heart

July 28, 2010

أغرى امرؤ يوماً غلاماً جاهلاً * * * بنقوده كيما ينال به الوطر

One day a man tempted an ignorant boy
Using his money, in order to achieve his objective

قال ائتني بفؤاد أمك يا فتى * * * ولك الدراهم والجواهر والدرر

He said, “O young one, bring me the heart of your mother
And money, jewels and pearls will be yours!”

فمضى و أغرز خنجراً في صدرها * * * و القلب أخرجه و عاد على الأثر

So he went and plunged a dagger into her chest
And took out the heart and returned the way he came

لكنه من فرط سرعته هوى * * * فتدحرج القلب المعفر إذ عثر

But because of his haste, he fell
And the dusty heart rolled away as he stumbled

ناداه قلب الأم و هو معفر * * * ولدي حبيبي هل أصابك من ضرر

The heart of his mother called him, and he was covered in dust,
“My son! My beloved! Are you hurt?!”

فكأن هذا الصوت رغم حنوه * * * غضب السماء به على الولد انهمر

The voice, although it was so gentle, yet
It was like the wrath of the Heavens had fallen on the boy

ودرى فظيع خيانة لم يأتها * * * أحد سواه منذ تاريخ البشر

Thus he understood the enormity of his betrayal that nobody
Had committed but him in the history of mankind

فارتد نحو القلب يغسله بما * * * أجرت دموع العين من سيل العبر

So he rushed back to the heart washing it with the tears
Of his eyes that flowed from the flood of sorrow

و يقول يا قلب انتقم مني و لا * * * تغفر فإن جريمتي لا تغتفر

And he said, “O heart! Take your revenge from me and do not
Forgive, because my crime is unforgiveable.

و إذا غفرت فإنني أقضي انتـ * * *ـحارا مثل من قبلي انتحر

And if you forgive then surely I will kill myself
Like those before me who have committed suicide.”

فاستل خنجره ليقتل نفسه * * * طعناً فيبقى عبرة لمن اعتبر

So as he unsheathed his dagger to kill himself,
A stabbing that would remain as an example to those who seek lessons,

ناداه قلب الأم كف يداً و لا * * * تذبح فؤادي مرتين على الأث

The heart of the mother called him saying, “Stop your hand and do not
strike my heart twice in succession!”

Honour Your Parents

July 13, 2010

وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّـهُ وَبِالْوَلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـناً إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ

أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاَهُمَا فَلاَ تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلاَ تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلاً كَرِيمًا

وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًا

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor reprimand them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” [Surat al-Isra’, 7:23-24]

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﴿وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّـهُ وَبِالْوَلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـناً إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاَهُمَا فَلاَ تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلاَ تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلاً كَرِيمًا – وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًا ﴾

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor reprimand them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young. [Surat al-Isra’, 7:23-24]